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| Got a Living Will? |
| 03.24.05 (4:54 pm) [edit] |
If it's your wish to not be put on life support, then it's your duty to your loved ones to get a living will. It's simple, it's clear, and it's free. You can express your wishes in no uncertain terms and allow your loved ones the peace of knowing that your will is being done. You can spare your loved ones the ridicule of the world and keep your life from becoming the next political platform. My life is not for debate. It's not for politicians to decide. It's not for a feeding tube to be put in and then ordered to be out and then back in again. This is my life, thank you, and I don't want any politician or Judge to decide what is right for me when I am no longer able to do for myself. I don't know Terri's real situation. I can't know her wishes, no one can. This can be debated until the cows come home and yet, no one will know for certain what Terri wants. Maybe she's never going to get better. Maybe she wanted to die. I don't know and I would hate to have to decide that at this point. No one really wins here. And I don't really see how this can be decided by the legal or political systems of our nation. I certainly don't know the right thing to do here. That's why I think it's important to put into writing what your wishes are. Either get a living will, or write that you want to be kept alive at all costs. Just do it for those that you love.
On a side note.....if Terri's reality were my reality today.....then my partner would have no say whatsoever as to my wishes. We have no legal ties, and my family could waltz right in and tell the medical officials what to do with my life. Even if I told my partner NOT to put me on any life support, my parents could have all the legal say in the world about what to do with my life. Even if we'd been together for 30 yrs. However, years ago I got myself a Living Will. I gave my doctor a copy, I gave my parents a copy, and I kept a copy for my records. Now, I'll give my partner a copy so that all will know my wishes. That is a relief to me to make that decision for myself, and to spare my loved ones any struggles with the issue.
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| 03.18.05 (6:01 am) [edit] |
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| Moore is forgiven |
| 03.17.05 (11:32 am) [edit] |
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Ok, let's back track to discuss the ousted Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore. He was the judge who had a 5,300 lb monument of the ten commandments installed at the capitol. The US District Court Judge Thompson had ordered the monument be removed, and then later expelled Moore from his office after he refused to obey the Federal Court order. So, it cost $7,000 just to have the monument moved. Who paid for the monument? Who paid for it to be moved? The Alabama tax payers, of course.
No one had a problem with his personal spiritual&n bsp;beliefs. He was free to put up the ten commandments in his personal office. But no, that wasn't enough for him. He wanted to become a martyr so that he could gain popularity and riches from his behavior. It wasn't about his spiritual beliefs, it was about his public religion and public image. No one told him how to behavior on his personal time, they just told him he couldn't force his personal religious beliefs in government. Isn't that what Christians would want if we had a judge who was a Buddhist? Wouldn't they want him to leave his religious practices in his/her personal time and treat everyone without reference to religion? To not force his/her beliefs on everyone else? To respect the faith of others?
Now, the former Judge was also been forgiven the legal fees to fight this case for all this time. The bill came to over $500,000, that's half a million dollars folks! Who paid his bill? The Alabama tax payers, of course. Even though a Federal Court determined Moore to be wrong in this case, the tax payers will pay the price for his personal agenda. And what happened to Moore? He wrote a book about his experiences and may even run for Alabama governor next term, or he may shoot for the Presidency. And with all the idiots out there blindly folllowing this fool, he may just get it.
So much for the separation of the church and state. Do you think for one moment that if his religious beliefs lay elsewhere he would be able to put a religious monument up at the capitol building? Do you think he could put up a big fat Buddha at the Capitol and have the taxpayers pay for it? Would the public be so willing to speak up for him then? Would religious freedom seem a little different in that light to those now speaking so powerfully on the freedom of speech and freedom of religion (all in the name of Jesus)? Think about it. These people aren't for freedom of religion or freedom of speech, they are for the freedom for them to force their beliefs on everyone else, not to mention forcing us to foot their bill while preaching their personal beliefs to the world. I'm so sick of these self righteous pigs sucking up all the air and dipping their greasy hands into my pocket to do it. It's amazing how blind people can be to these types of people. He's laughing all the way to the bank and may laugh himself into office again. Wake up, America!
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| dreading the tough times ahead for others |
| 03.15.05 (3:02 pm) [edit] |
My sister's mother-in-law is very sick, something is in her lungs, most likely cancer. The tests haven't come back yet. Whatever it is, it's in both lungs and has moved rapidly. She's a wonderful lady and has been a fantastic grandmother to my nieces and nephew. For them, I ache, knowing what they have ahead of them. Their first real taste of death. The death of their first grandparents. And they have some GRANDparents. My sister's mother in law is the kind of grandmother that takes time out with her grandkids. She's positive, gives them lots of individual attention, gets down and plays with them, takes them places, does crafts with them, cooks with them, reads with them, etc.... She's just Grand. As a matter of fact, they call her Gran Gran.
I'm just dreading this for the kids and the family. My brother in law is apparently taking this really hard, which actually surprised me. He's not very close to his mother and never has been. He's close to his dad.
I was thinking on the way home today about Gran Gran being sick and how rapidly this thing is moving and she's already told everyone she didn't want to prolong her life or live her life any different than she is now. If it's cancer, she'll go quickly, most likely. My oldest niece is 13, she'll understand more about what's going on. My nephew is 4, he'll not really understand what's happening very well. My other niece is 8 and she's very sensitive, so I worry about how she'll do with it. I was 8 yrs old when my first grandparent died and it affected me greatly. It was my first real taste of death and remember being so confused by everyone. They were all crying and upset, but at the same time were telling me "Granddaddy's gone to heaven." I remember wondering why people were crying if he went to heaven. Maybe they weren't sure. That's what I wondered. How do you really know? Anyway, I dread the end of innocence for them. I hurt in my heart for what is to come. And I hope they are able to talk about it freely and work through their grief in healthy ways. I hope and pray the family comes together and forms a safe place to grieve for them all. And I pray for this wonderful woman, Gran Gran, who has been such a good mother in law to my sister and a wonderful grandmother to my nieces and nephew. I hope she can walk this path in peace and love and comfort.
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| aversions |
| 03.08.05 (1:11 pm) [edit] |
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male chavinistic pigs
females who support sexism
drivers who pull out in front of you and then immediately turn left
coconut
people who won't just do their fucking job
racist people
people making assumptions about me when they don't know me
dusting
possums
my cluttered office
office politics and getting sucked into them whether you like it or not
artificial sweetners
the struggle it takes to just be yourself, why is it such a struggle?
white chocolate -just ain't the same
mice/rats/anything that looks like them
bad body odor
backbiters
the past creeping up and catching you off guard
diarrhea
kidney stones
assholes- (not the body part, just the people)
pink skin
public speaking
meetings without meaning
being stuck in a rut
going without sex for any length of time
sour cream and ranch dressing and anything resembling them
close minded people
people who complain about the same things but never do anything about it
snakes
having to hear, for the 599,999 time, about every freaking woman's diet in the office
the color pink
my brother in law
trying to give up colas
getting out of bed
legalistic religions that kill spirits
arguing
balancing my checkbook
unruly kids
borderline personality disorders
people who talk out of both sides of their mouth
mornings
drama of any kind
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| this is the church, this is the steeple, ... |
| 03.01.05 (6:02 pm) [edit] |
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I was recently reading an article by James B. Twitchell in the Mother Jones (March-April 2005 issue) and read an article I found to be interesting about the megachurches of today. The article focused on one particular such megachurch in Illinois called Willow Creek that was led by a pastor named Bill Hybels. The church lies on 155 acres, has a five acre "reflecting pond", has parking attendents assisting by radio headsets, has shuttle buses and offers entertainment and all sorts of social services to the community. They've replaced the old school church atmosphere for a more informal setting. Sermons have become "messages" and Sunday's Best has turned into casual come-as-you-are. The Little Brown Church in the Vale has become the MegaMart for Jesus.
You've seen the megachurches of your community, they resemble a shopping mall....lots of pavement/parking, large buildings, lights, etc... and they have been selling something to the American public, and doing quite well. It offers an opportunity to become a part of something bigger, but isn't so threatening as church was back in my day. Having them draw out yet another verse of the most dredging song in the songbook while you stand gripping the wooden pew, sweating from the Hell, Fire and Damnation sermon the sweaty preacher just delivered. No, they now tend to go the less threatening route, which is very smart to me. I never understood why people wanted to scare people into becoming a Christian. What is the point of that? Fear shouldn't be the motivation to have a relationship with God, in my humble opinion. Anyway, these new megachurches are offering sports, music, community, teaching, transportation, a social life, travel, .....all that and a ticket to heaven too!
This particular fellow, Hybel, had done his research. He had wondered why so many people didn't attend church when they claimed to be believers. So, he did his homework. He and a group of his friends went door to door asking the questions. They discovered that the answer was plain and simple, the barrier that kept families out of church was MEN. Their questioning found that men don't like being religious in public, they don't want to be told what to do, especially in the presence of women, and they don't like losing control. So, they figured if they could get men to come to church, much like the anthem in "Field of Dreams", "if we built it, they will come", then they could get the women and children to follow. And it worked. They have catered to the sensitive needs of men and churches like the Willow Creek megachurch is now one of the nation's largest congregations: 18,000 people attend services any given weekend.
Now, that's impressive. But, I'm left wondering what does that mean to the individual? I remember moving to a bigger church and enjoying the anonymity of blending into the crowd. I could be separate but a part of it all at the same time. But I was there to focus on my own spiritual life and it was just what I needed at the time. At the megachurch, I saw alot of lonely people there just searching for someone to pay attention to them, someone to love them. They came to find a mate, they came to have a place to fit in, they came to find a date, they came there to find a friend, and they came to do what they are supposed to do as a Christian. And I saw alot of empty people still seeking something and looking pretty miserable. Fake smiles and lonely hearts. But, there were the ones who were obviously there to have a relationship with God. It just seemed they were few and far between. And that was very sad to witness.
It doesn't matter if it's the little brown church, or the megachurch, you can't substitute church for a relationship. I think everyone has to find out what their place of worship is. For some, a megachurch suits their needs. For others, it might be a walk in nature, or writing, or reading, or helping others, or working for a good cause. There are so many things that need to be be done out there and obviously the church doesn't meet the needs of everyone. So, why do they often act as if they can? We have many talents and many passions and I feel that we have been given those things for a reason. And I hope that people find what those things are and go with it. I hope for those that are seeking, that they will not let anyone stand in their way of finding their way, not even the church. I certainly don't have all the answers, but I've been around enough to know what some of the answers [i]aren't. [/i] And I'm wise enough to know that God doesn't reveal secret plans for my goodwill to others so they can tell me about it and enlighten me. I have a personal relationship with God and I don't need an interpreter or mediator. I can learn from others, but I don't have to depend on another human being to direct my path. And until God tells me differently, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
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