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roy moore
09.29.04 (2:28 pm)   [edit]

an Alabama Judge just tossed a lawsuit asking roy moore to pay his own legal fees of $550,000. The lawsuit was submitted by three groups....The American Civil Liberties Union, Southern Poverty Law Center, and Americans United for Separation of Church and State. This was not an official state agenda in place when roy moore was fighting the law, it was a personal agenda. as a lesbian, my agenda is brought up by folks all the time, even though my agenda doesn't cost the taxpayers a dime. but the former judge roy moore had personal and religious issues he brought into court and fought for as far as he could go. but guess who foots the bill for his personal and religious agenda? me. and all the other residents of this state. the atheists, the buddhists, the muslims, even some chrisitians who didn't agree with roy, will be paying for the man's beliefs and religious agenda. it wasn't like he had a picture of the ten commandments, this was a 5,300 pound monument, folks. not something the elevator could even hold. it was the size and weight of his ego. nobody cared if he even put that monsterous thing in his office, but it was the fact that he couldn't display that as an official state monument. esp. since the I HAVE A DREAM speech couldn't be posted in the State Capitol. The highest court ruled that this monstrosity of a monument was unconsititutional, an endorsement of religion by the government, and ordered it to be removed. Who payed to have it moved? exactly! While he has violated the law with his relgious agenda, we will foot the bill for his breaking the law, and all his attorney fees (and it wasn't just AN attorney, of course, that's attorneys with an "s"). roy got expelled from his office, but we still have to pay the bill. that would be like a judge buying illegal drugs, and having the State pay for them to be transported, and then pay for his court fees. maybe we'd pay for some rehab in that case, i don't know, but perhaps we should consider that in this case....maybe we should pay for roy to get some counseling to overcome the effects of his problem. a little rehab for ole roy to recover from his little ugly problem that everyone seems to deny, the big pink elephant in the State of Alabama's living room....Religion.


hey roy, just say no!

 
grouchy
09.27.04 (9:34 am)   [edit]
I feel like Oscar the Grouch today. I just want to go home to my garbage can and heckle anybody that walks near by. Maybe throw some garbage on them. People are getting on my nerves at work...employees and consumers.
Tonight we have a dinner thing for work that I am obliged to go to since I'm a boss and all. Actually, it's pretty much required for everone that works here. Involuntary participation is always a good morale booster! Reminds me of an old saying "the senseless beatings will continue until morale improves!"
so, it's at this meeting that they should announce if we get anything this year.....like a bonus or a raise or a "just be lucky you have a job" speech. Nobody expects anything this year. But my boss has insinuated that we will get some kind of raise. I can't imagine it, but if it is a raise, I'll be surprised along with everybody else there. I hope it's not one of those 1 1/2 percent raises or something that would be more of a slap in the face, but a real raise that makes a difference on the paycheck. You know? Anyway, we have to dress up for this thing and they don't even serve alcohol, they could at least do that if they force you to attend, right? Maybe I should have a few drinks beforehand.

I hope we get a good raise. We deserve it.
 
bitter old lady
09.23.04 (9:37 am)   [edit]

nobody wants to be a bitter old lady.....sometimes i fear i might be there, except i'm not old yet.....this world is set up so that you can't be nice all the time, you just can't.  the assholes are everywhere and they will not allow you to be nice and civil and just do what you are supposed to do.....somebody has to be a dick over something stupid, or throw a fit over nothing, or just not do what they are supposed to do.  why can't everyone just get along, i guess i'm still of that old school frame of mind and i need to just get over it.  but then, i can't be an asshole, it's just not in me, well, not unless somebody is mean to me or somebody i care about.  i try to live by the golden rule, as corny as that might sound, and normally it works for me.  but sometimes no matter how you treat others, you are going to get the short end of the stick, way more times than i care to admit to.  but as i recall, that golden rule didn't come with any guarantees, so just because you are nice doesn't mean others will be nice.  you just have to do it because you feel it's the right way to be.  and i do.  it's just that sometimes it's not worth it, i'm afraid.  sometimes you just can't do it all.


this world is not for the nice guy, it's for assholes. 


when is the next train leaving?

 
good news or bad news?
09.20.04 (8:01 am)   [edit]
you know, work has been stressful alot lately, it stays that way....i struggle with what to do.  i haven't been able to find another job so far.  i try to make the best of an awful situation here right now in the meantime.  so.....one of my employees comes in this morning for her weekly staffing and she shares with me that she dreamed i got fired.  ok, well, maybe this is my answer coming.....oops, not exactly my idea of finding a new job, but i bet it would get my ass in gear to find one!
 
finally friday
09.17.04 (3:49 pm)   [edit]

work has been rough lately. we have a state audit coming soon, so we have to make sure all our charts are in order. it's pretty stressful. one bad mark makes that particular program fail the test. and makes the CFO, CEO, and clinical director [i]really[/i] unhappy with you. and when you are the boss, the buck stops on you.   your head, your shoulders, your ass.


we've lost several employees lately: our only nurse, one of our two doctors, our only nurse practioner. so, we have to find ways to serve all these people we've got in our caseloads.


my grrl has been really stressed about work. to the point that she's sick. and can't sleep. which means i can't sleep either and i worry about her. she works really hard and is underpaid and overworked and under appreciated.


i've had drama with my employees at work. people talking to me about people, complaining and wanting me to do something, while talking about me to them and complaining about me being in for them or something. i can't understand the motivation for bullshit like that. i really have no tolerance for that stuff.  the degree of deceit has really surprised me.  disappointed me.  and it has made me feel pretty alone at work.  it's made me put distance from myself and everyone else.  i think it will all actually work out to be a good thing, but it sure hasn't been fun.  it's hurt, my pride, my heart, my confidence, but, what do you do? 


you try to learn from it and move to a higher playing field, hopefully....and try to remember this isn't junior high school, this is real life adulthood, so fucking act like it!


have you ever noticed how people who make a career out of some profession/skill, usually aren't that good at it themselves?


how many hairdressers have you seen that have fucked up hair? they got bleached out, broken off, frizzed up hair and don't trust most of their fellow beauticians to do their hair.


how many mechanics have you seen that drive pieces of junk? or have cars that are always breaking down and needing them to work on them.


how about therapists? of all the therapists i know, there are only a few that are actually healthy human beings. seriously, some of the sickest individuals i know are in the mental health profession. sick therapists, fucked up nurses, freakish psychiatrists, etc...you can find these typoes all over the place. 


any other examples that you can think of?

 
Cool Bumperstickers
09.13.04 (4:32 pm)   [edit]
(Courtesy of NorthernSun Catalog)

Religion is for people afraid of going to hell,
Spirituality is for people wh have already been there.
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not all who wander are lost
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If you're not outraged you're not paying attention.
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Well-behaved women seldom make history.
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Sorry I missed church, I've been busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.
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(for men) Don't assume I fix things.
(for women) Don't assume I cook.
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If the definition of beautiful gets any thinner, no one will fit.
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Humans aren't the only species on earth, we just act like it.
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no child is born a racist
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When we tug on a single thing in nature we find it attached to everything else. (Muir quote)
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Over 25% of human genes are the same as those of a banana. Get over yourself.
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What if the Hokey Pokey really is what it's all about?
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Who would Jesus Bomb?
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Question Authority
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You're not the boss of me
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Speak your mind even if your voice shakes. (maggie kuhn)
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I do not intend to simply tiptoe through life only to arrive safely at death.
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I love my country....but I think we should start seeing other people.
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Just say no to sex with pro-lifers.
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Change how you see not how you look.
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Where are we going? And why am I in this handbasket?
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If you can't operate the turn signals, what makes you think you can operate the rest of the car!
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We are creating enemies faster than we can kill them.
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God wants spiritual fruits, not religious nuts
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I'm for the separation of church and hate.
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Hang up and drive!
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Lick Bush
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EVERYONE does better when EVERYONE does better.
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Our factories are all overseas. All we produce here are rich executives.
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I love my country but fear my government.
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My silence could mean you are not worth the argument.
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Life is sexually transmitted.
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God, protect me from your followers.
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Support the police, beat yourself up.
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Churches should stay out of politics or be taxed.
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Anyone who claims to have God on their side is dangerous as hell.
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The only Bush I trust is my own.
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Go fascinate someone else
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Our national health plan: don't get sick.
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Stupidity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
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Abstinence makes the church grow fondlers.
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Another American for a work free drug place.
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Enlighten up!

 
it's all a matter of taste
09.12.04 (12:00 pm)   [edit]
I figured it was a good time for a couple of lists.

[u]Things I don't like in my mouth:[/u]
1. cock/spunk
2. coconut
3. hair
4. onions
5. fishy fish
6. sour cream
7. ranch
8. olives
9. sand
10. whiskey (after throwing it up my nose yrs ago)

[u]Things I like in my mouth:[/u]
1. greeneyed grrl
2. pussy, a nice mixutre of mine and hers
3. chocolate
4. crab meat
5. Sushi
6. buttery bread
7. fresh fruit (like strawberries, melons, peaches)
8. a Frosty
9. hot muffins (see also number 1)
10. Red Royal Shrimp
11. plain Ruffles
12. mushrooms
13. scallops
14. homemade chocolate chip cookies
15. homemade biscuits
 
for my greeneyedgrrl
09.09.04 (11:05 am)   [edit]
I'm posting the lyrics of a song by the Indigo Girls called "Free In You" because it speaks more eloquently than I could about how I feel about my grrl. It seems an awful lot lately that things are totally screwed up everywhere but with her. And sometimes she seems to be the only thing that still shines in my life. That seems like an awful lot of pressure for her. But I'm thankful for who she is and what she means to me and my world. I'm trying to think positively and when I do that, it always comes back to her. She amazes me. And I can't explain very well just what it means to me to have her as my friend, let alone my partner. So, I'll let Emily's words express some things I cannot. Thanks.

[i]Indigo Girls Lyrics - Free In You

A hard knock
A cold clock
Ticking off my time
A long look
But no luck
Couldn't seem to find
Or unwind
Into peace of mind
While I was trying

A quick glance
A big chance
My heart beat like a drum
I saw you
And I knew
Chances just don't come
Round again
Not like this
First a laugh
Then a kiss

And I'm free in you
I've got no worries on my mind
I know what to do
That's to treat you right
And love you kind
Thank you ever on my mind
Love is just like breathing
When it's true
And I'm free in you

The lost time
And self pride
Are my big mistakes
A clear voice
A bad choice
Sounding like an ache
In my day
Not too bad
But too real
To go away

But now I'm free in you
I've got no worries on my mind
I know what to do
That's to treat you right
And love you kind
Thank you ever on my mind
Love is just like breathing
When it's true
And I'm free in you

And I don't know
How you show
Such gentle disregard
For the ugly in me
That I see
That for so long
I took so hard
(I took so hard)
And I truly believe
(I truly believe)
That you see the best in me
(That you see the best in me)
I'm in love
We all love
And that thought
Sets me free

Free in you
Got no worries on my mind
I know what to do
That's to treat you right
And love you kind
Thank you ever on my mind
Love is just like breathing
When it's true
And I'm free in you
Yes I'm free in you
[/i]
 
laboring day
09.06.04 (6:18 pm)   [edit]
I'm sore. I've been laboring today in a bed of lilies at my parent's. It was an amish kind of day. I did work for my Dad for two reasons: Number one is I get to get some free lilies out of it. Number two is that my Dad's health isn't the greatest and he doesn't need to be out in the heat doing this kind of stuff. It's good to be sore from good labor.
Now, it's back to work tomorrow and I'm not ready for it. Ugh. Work has been so wierd lately and I like it even less than I normally do. I have updated my resume lately, and now am working toward doing some cold cover letters to send out my resume to some places. I hope I get a good hit. My hope is to make more money and NOT be a boss, and hopefully do something I like to do. I'm ready for a change. The people at my work have been one of the positive things about why I like my job and now that has all been shot to hell.

It seems like when I was younger, keeping my integrity seemed so much easier than it is now. When you get older, you should somehow know better and make better judgments about things. It's much harder to forgive yourself for mistakes because the mistakes don't just cost the team the ball game. The mistakes mess with lives. How do you recover when you see things about yourself that you don't like? When you've been going in this direction for some time? When you can say, like Weeza said, "I ain't as sweet as I used to be" and mean it. You see, Weeza was actually a soft hearted person underneath all the tough stuff. I feel like her in reverse. What do you do when you are starting to feel like you are becoming cold hearted underneath years of a nice exterior? How do you stop that from happening? Are my true colors finally coming through? When the pressure gets to be so much, have I found out what I'm really made of? And if it's not too pretty, how do I change it? Where do I begin to begin?
 
office chatter
09.05.04 (6:18 am)   [edit]
It seems I've been the victim of office chatter and I hate that kind of stuff. Somehow, I have fallen into it and it is really disappointing to me. I hate that I have allowed myself to be manipulated by it, and I hate I have, at times, went along with the crowd. When you are the boss, you have to really watch what you say and do. You can be sitting there trying to eat your lunch with staff and they can be talking about Suzie. You may agree with what they say, maybe nod, or make a comment, but you didn't start or lead the conversation or contribute much at all. But, somehow, later on, it's told to Suzie like YOU are the one who initiated the conversations and lead them. It's hurtful to people and I don't understand why that shit happens. It makes you feel you cannot trust anyone. So, these people who tend to add fuel to the flames have been feeding Suzie one line, while feeding you another. It's crazy. And so junior high school.
So, what do you do when you and Suzie put 2 and 2 together? I'm not even sure. Suzie doesn't want me to say anything to anyone b/c we have to work with these people and it could get really ugly. So, we agreed to just keep it between us and act as if nothing happened. How do I know Suzie won't go back and tell all w/o my knowledge? What do we do when this happens again? I just have to keep my distance from everyone. You can't be people's friends when you are their boss. It's just hard to do. And when you are the boss, every little thing you do or say is subject to be taken the wrong way or exaggerated or totally twisted around. Damn that shit just sucks. I was just totally taken aback by it all this week. It was like I haven't even known some of these people. And I'm angry that their own agenda has in some ways dictated what has happened in the office. And manipulated me. And I'm disappointed in myself for allowing it to happen. How can I even make it right now? What do I have to do to ensure it doesn't happen again? How do you let people know, "hey, just because Fred said I said this or that doesn't mean that I actually did." "Don't believe everything you hear!" When people say I said "x", just ask me before you jump to conclusions. And ask yourself, why would they say that to me?

I don't have the energy to meddle with people's lives, nor do I have the interest in it. I'm just trying to do my job as well as I can and go home at the end of the day. Harmony is my motto in every facet of my life. And balance has been thrown way off this week at work and I'm not sure how to recover.
 
soooooo, let me get this straight.....
09.04.04 (7:05 am)   [edit]
Ok, my parents have saved money all their lives and in the last few years they have decided to purchase one of those timeshare condo deals for their 3 children's inheritance. This will ensure that at least one week a year, their kids could have a vacation in one of the locations of the timeshare condos. Sounds okay, I guess, except that they have to pay some service fee monthly on the condo even after they have the deed to it. For cleaning or whatever. Sure. Anyway.....my sister has used the condo deal and I was able to use it once when my mom rented it for my sister and my sister decided not to use it. I got it that one night. My brother and his then girlfriend have used it. Now, mind you, my parents have bitched that their kids haven't appeared interested in this project of theirs and have been hurt. While I went to hear the condo spill from the timeshare people and investigated it online. And then the one time I asked to use it, I was told that they would have to charge for anyone who isn't family. Translation, if I use this condo ALONE or with them, I can stay there free. If I use the condo with my partner or with my partner and her kids, then we must pay. So, while my siblings can use it any time they want, if they so choose, with their families, I cannot.

Before, I had offered that I could pay the monthly service fee as the rent if I stayed in a condo. That sounded fair to me. If someone stays there, just pay the fee for that month and use it. It would still be cheaper than renting a condo or hotel somewhere. But, my mom didn't really even give me that option when I asked, she just quickly said "well, i know you can't afford to pay anything." Which was true. I don't have the money today to pay the service fee, but I could have paid her next week. I felt like she could have given me some slack. So, instead of me paying her service fee next week, she'll pay it this month and NOBODY will use the condo.

My Mom is wierd. I know it. I love her but she has some strange ideas about family and friends and just life in gnereal. My sister tried to use the condo for her 40th birthday. She wanted to get away (from her 3 kids and husband) and have just a day for her. So, she invited her best friend to go on a day of shopping in Nashville with the idea that they would stay in the condo. WRONG! Mom said she could only use the room if she took her family. So, it's not just me she's picking on, she's totally all about family first. She doesn't seem to want us to have any fun outside of our families. Except, according to them, I don't have a family because I am a lesbian. Never mind that I live daily and share the expenses with 4 other people that, whether my mom recognizes it or not, are MY family.

How much do you think that condo deal will mean to me after my parents are gone and I can actually use it as I choose? Whoopee. Thanks for this wonderful inheritance. Your thoughtfullness is overwhelming. I will treasure this everytime I get that monthly service fee bill after you are gone. No offense, but all three of your kids didn't want this thing and would rather have almost anything else. Or nothing. We told you to cut your losses a long time ago, but you wouldn't listen. And now you have a big empty condo sitting there and costing you money b/c you won't share with anybody. You hurt those people you love. So, don't be bitter at me because I'm not excited about a condo for ONE, okay?